Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Helping decode the "thought patterns" of a narcissist co-parent.......

Need help decode the mystery that is the thought patterns of a narcissist parent?  I use the term thought pattern very loosely here because honestly a narcissist really does not think.  This is not an easy task but I am going to give it a shot anyway.  The thoughts of a narcissist only make sense to the narcissist and no one else in the world!

For example, a narcissist will go on and on and on and on.....................about what kind of a mother would not want to "let" a child see their own father and complain and rant and rave to anyone and everyone (especially on social media) about how they never get to see their child but at the exact same time, this same narcissist does not even show up for a fourth of the visitation that he actually has each month.  Also, he cannot be bothered with notifying the other parent whether he is going to show up or not (he couldn't care less about that parent).  For some of these other parents, this can directly impact their income if they need to work and they think the child care parenting is covered by the other parent so no notice and not showing up is unacceptable.  Plus it is just plain rude!  

Advice to all narcissist parents, show up or shut up and stop lying and making up excuses to not see your kids!!!  And if you are not going to bother to show up, give somebody a heads up already!  It really gets old hearing all the whining and carrying on about how you never get to see your own kids.  Blah, blah, blah.........If you really wanted to see your kids, you would.  

It is not possible to say you "had to work" or you were "out of town."  Guess what?  The full-time parent of your child works too, all the time in fact and still finds plenty of time to spend time with the kids and that is not easy on top of all of the other responsibilities that parent has so get over yourself!  You have plenty of time to see your kids if you actually wanted to................................... Luckily, there are laws in place so that a narcissist deadbeat dad will go straight to jail for not paying child support but there are no laws requiring a narcissist deadbeat dad to have visitation or spend time with their kids.  Maybe the law got it right in this regard. If you want to be a parent to your child, nothing would stop you except of course yourself.

1 comment:

  1. It also might help if they stop dating everyone in the world from dating apps and actually spend that time with their kids. LOL!

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