Eye color, hair color, left-handedness, drug addiction, dimples, mental disorders, and color blindness are all things you can inherit from your parents but you can also inherit their cycles of dysfunction as well.
So lets say if a child suffers abuse as a child, they are likely to be abusive to their children as well or other children.
What other situations do parents pass down that are repeated by their children? Infidelity, enabling, and abandonment just to name a few.
Picture this, suppose your father had two kids at some point in time. He decides that is not the life he wants and dumps those kids and goes off to be with someone else and has additional kids completely neglecting the two kids he already has. That is a disgusting cycle that can repeat itself.
Or what if your mother's mother enabled one of your siblings so much so that said sibling lived with their mom their entire life and now you also have adult children living with you because, again, the cycle is being repeated.
If you act like a bully, your child might too. If you are violent, your child could be violent too.
When you are a parent, you have to realize that your kids are watching what you do and will likely repeat behaviors especially from the same sex parent. It is unfortunate for some kids but there is not much you can do about it except ask yourself if you would want your child to be like you and go from there.
“Instead of treating your child like how you were treated. Treat them with the same love and attention you wanted from your parents while growing up." -- Jonathan Anthony Burkett
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