Basically a deadbeat dad is a dad who puts himself before his children, there is usually a component of narcissistic behavior driving this selfish desire to be number one or maybe you have a dad who abandoned his first set of children and started over without them and you learned it that way. There is no such thing as a practice family. Whatever the case, here is how to fix that.
1. Willingly support your children. You don't want to be "that dad" that a court or judge is forcing to feed your own children. Think about the message that sends the children. This is your responsibility. If you support your children in order to keep yourself out of jail, well, that is just not saying much about your character now is it? NOPE!
2. Be in your children's lives in a positive way. I am pretty sure an average of 7 to 8 hours a month does not really qualify you as a parent anyway, just sayin'.
3. Don't lie. Just don't! Lies always, always, always come out in the end but if you are the kind of liar who lies so much to so many people you just cannot keep yours lies straight you are probably not going to be able to correct this now. Once a liar, always a liar.
4. Don't use your children.
5. Don't bad mouth your children's mother to the children because I guarantee you, they know your words are false. You are trying to make their mother, who provides for them 98.5% of the time financially and physically look crazy but trust me, they know absolutely without a doubt that is not the case. You just make yourself look stupid and desperate.
So there you have it. A few great tips on how not to be a deadbeat dad.
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