Its so true.....

For realz Friday. My 2 cents...........

You might not want to take advice about college and living in a dorm from a college graduate who is completely-dependent on their parents and has been since graduation.

I mean clearly going to college and living in a dorm did nothing for them.

Parenting......

Parenting is not a science and no matter how many books you read on how to be a parent, there is no way to know if you are doing it right or have done it right but there may be clues.  For example, if you have one child (and especially if you have more than one child) in their 40s-to-almost 50s living in your house completely dependent on you. I am thinking you should probably find a mirror and ask Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall, What the Hell Did I do Wrong?  Another clue could be that your oldest child needs you to fill out and deliver his court-ordered child support because it is late, and he does not want to risk getting caught and carted off to jail.  I mean, I'm just saying.  You really are not doing them any favors no matter what you think.  And please don't play the Bipolar card because honestly, aren't we all Bipolar to some degree?  

What is it that Dr. Phil always says about enabling your adult children?  He says basically you are robbing them (the adult children) of the gift of feeling good about themselves by not letting them stand on their own two feet and being able to celebrate their own independence.....You can read the full article here.  It is just pathetic!  Remember enablers of the world, you will not live forever and then what?  They fight over your house and who you leave it to or end up in a state home because they cannot function in "the real world" and then I have to pay for them with my tax dollars.  No thanks!  Please fix them now while there is still time.

Exactly!!!

If you have a house full of 40 year olds, you probably did something wrong,
a lot of somethings wrong!

Love Dave..........

How timely since just yesterday I posted about adult children/enabling parents.  Today on
The Dave Ramsey Show he ranted on about this very topic.  He makes exquisite points that are 100% correct.

You can fast-forward to around minute 12 and listen to Dave explain the real problems with being an enabler and the harm it actually does.

He says that enablers really believe they are helping because they do not have the correct definition of the word help.  He says they are not helping but causing great harm instead.

"When a mom or dad allows a 32-year-old live in their basement and not work or supports them so they do not have to work. You steal their dignity, you steal their ability to win in the marketplace, you steal their ability to perform, and what happens when you die?  They are SCREWED because they are completely atrophied in every pit of their character that they need to win."  He suggested that the father needs to put his foot down and put an end to it and to stop supporting negative behavior.

Time to cut the cord.................

Is it pathetic or brilliant..............

When a grown man lives off of  with his parents?  If you think about it, it is a little brilliant.

No bills, meals cooked, mommy cuts your meat so you don't choke, laundry gets washed, just care-free on someone else's dime.

No big boy responsibilities.  But in reality, the reasons this is pathetic for the grown man are pretty clear cut and for the ones that are allowing themselves to be used, what is wrong with you?

If you raised a kid/kids that are now an adults and are depending on you, chances are you did something really wrong but if you continue to allow the behavior then you just have to deal with it.

This is a great article on enabling adult children.

Click here for the article.

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